Lauren, I really loved listening to your wonderful, thoughtful post. Thank you for sharing - it's super inspiring and has got me thinking about feeling jealous too.
I was jealous of a chum who was in Ireland on a 3 month cookery course. I went to visit and she was so incredibly happy and I realised it would be way too intense for me. Not jealous now, just happy for her x
I loved this! Listened while I pitted sour cherries to freeze (on my to-do list this WHOLE week; finally got to it).
The insight about reframing "I'm so jealous" into what you actually mean: yes. From my own experience growing up, I learned to constantly reframe what I did and said for the benefit of the people around to me, which for years I didn't recognize as an issue, until I left that environment and I suddenly could not communicate, least of all what I wanted. What do you want? is a huge terrain for some of us—let alone saying it!
Sarah, thank you so much for reading and for sharing.
"What do you want?": I have almost always automatically said "I don't mind" or "whatever you want", as a people pleaser, instead of voicing the truth. As if what I want is a big scary deal that I don't deserve as equally as the other? Thank you for sharing your experience and for giving me this to ponder.
Absolutely brilliant piece LD 🥰🥳Wonderful insight on the jealous trigger that lies within us all. Love your redirection of your mind & language around such feelings & how we all can be more self aware & leave ourselves in a much brighter position! I’m very lucky to have found you LD - you’re a wonderful human & friend 🥳💖 & thrilled we can have fun & chats about life & notebooks & all sorts 🤣 I do love a good notebook me 🤣
PS. Loving the audio - radio star 🌟 👈 #keepherlit 🥳💖 🚀
You legend! 🧡🧡🧡 I so appreciate your infinite wisdom and shining light in my life!
I found it to be so helpful for my frame of mind, and for making space to be happy for others. Of course though, readers can take what they like from it and decide what works best for them, but I am very happy to hear that this resonated with you! 🧡
Loved this! Such great questions you posed for when jealousy arrises. A friend just sent me pics of eating at a new Mexican restaurant in London and I felt a jealousy pang, but when I reflected on your questions and really listened, I realised it isn't jealousy it is actually just that I miss him and miss having dinners with him in London. Much nicer to realise that! Thank you!
Lauren, I really loved listening to your wonderful, thoughtful post. Thank you for sharing - it's super inspiring and has got me thinking about feeling jealous too.
Thank you so much for listening and sharing this, Sophie 🧡
I was jealous of a chum who was in Ireland on a 3 month cookery course. I went to visit and she was so incredibly happy and I realised it would be way too intense for me. Not jealous now, just happy for her x
LOVE THIS. Sometimes we think something is so meant for us but the universe knows best. Thank you for sharing 🧡🧡🧡🧡
The audio version is so nice to hear! This is such a great platform and you are using it well.
Thank you so much my amazing friend! 🧡🧡🧡
I loved this! Listened while I pitted sour cherries to freeze (on my to-do list this WHOLE week; finally got to it).
The insight about reframing "I'm so jealous" into what you actually mean: yes. From my own experience growing up, I learned to constantly reframe what I did and said for the benefit of the people around to me, which for years I didn't recognize as an issue, until I left that environment and I suddenly could not communicate, least of all what I wanted. What do you want? is a huge terrain for some of us—let alone saying it!
Sarah, thank you so much for reading and for sharing.
"What do you want?": I have almost always automatically said "I don't mind" or "whatever you want", as a people pleaser, instead of voicing the truth. As if what I want is a big scary deal that I don't deserve as equally as the other? Thank you for sharing your experience and for giving me this to ponder.
Enjoy the frozen cherries! 🧡🧡
A Big Scary Deal: YES. (Also a great title for a poem? A band? A T-shirt collection??)
ALL OF THE ABOVE! hehe
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Absolutely brilliant piece LD 🥰🥳Wonderful insight on the jealous trigger that lies within us all. Love your redirection of your mind & language around such feelings & how we all can be more self aware & leave ourselves in a much brighter position! I’m very lucky to have found you LD - you’re a wonderful human & friend 🥳💖 & thrilled we can have fun & chats about life & notebooks & all sorts 🤣 I do love a good notebook me 🤣
PS. Loving the audio - radio star 🌟 👈 #keepherlit 🥳💖 🚀
PPS. Thanks for the mention 💖🙏💙
You legend! 🧡🧡🧡 I so appreciate your infinite wisdom and shining light in my life!
I found it to be so helpful for my frame of mind, and for making space to be happy for others. Of course though, readers can take what they like from it and decide what works best for them, but I am very happy to hear that this resonated with you! 🧡
Great writing LD! Yep lots to chew on for us all x PS. it's takes one to know one (Legends!)
Loved this! Such great questions you posed for when jealousy arrises. A friend just sent me pics of eating at a new Mexican restaurant in London and I felt a jealousy pang, but when I reflected on your questions and really listened, I realised it isn't jealousy it is actually just that I miss him and miss having dinners with him in London. Much nicer to realise that! Thank you!
Ahhhhh 🧡 I am so grateful you shared this, thank you. 🧡🧡🧡
I am glad my brain-dump resonated with you, and I hope you get to go to dinner with your friend again soon!
Beautiful.
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