I love your honesty and how you keep things real for us and yourself (respectively? Lol). Your teenage dance story took me back to my 13 Y/O self and 7th & 8th grade dances at the town hall, with zeppelin’s Stairway to Heaven on the turntable 🤦♀️. There were 9 of us in those 2 grades...
My “Where Are They Now” footnotes:
One of the boys I danced with later went on to murder a woman and do 20+ years in prison.
OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY in that small group those are poor odds of the "Where Are They Now"? and that is awfully sad stuff! I am so glad all you got from him was a dance.
Also, thank you! It is so healing to write so honestly, and I am so grateful for readers who accept that and embrace it. It keeps me being honest 🧡🧡🧡
This one hit home...but fortunately for me, someone being into me has very rarely been a problem 🤷♂️
I can also count on one hand the number of times I've td someone I'm friends with that I'm crushing on them.
Three time. I've done that 3 times.
1 ended the friendship (this is where I learned to shut up and judt be friends).
1 got kinda freaked and needed to talk out how not into me they were and how that freaked them out (fortunately we are still friends, but ouch, rejection)
One took me 6yrs of friendship to say, but she did marry me last year so that one worked out really well! 😆
I'm demiace too, so finding someone who is also on the ace spectrum was a very helpful thing!
I don't think I have ever told anyone, I often realize I have feelings (AKA I grow those feelings as I am guessing you can relate) when it is far too late and that is my fault. Wait. Not fault. That is who I am and I love her for it.
The small amount of times (one time) I have found people willing to wait, and I have reciprocated, it has been a beautiful relationship. Aside from that, I have FOR SURE tested the waters once those feels come along by making comments or asking questions and when the answer is them completely oblivious, friends is where it stays.
I am feeling so lucky you have found your way to this substack and that you can relate to some of it, too.
Thanks so much for reading and for sharing! I am so thrilled to hear you two got married last year. Congrats! GOALS!
I too, was cornered and peer pressured about romantic relationships in elementary school, what a weird practice. Thank you for sharing and normalizing that this is a thing that can happen to folks.
Truly weird! I can't help but imagine if certain conversations were normalized, then those who felt like exploring those urges could do so safely and not have to pressure others who weren't feeling like that is what they wanted to do.
Love everything about this! I was an honest kid, too. I like to think I’m an honest adult, but the honesty of youth is next level. Can we get back to that? And would it be a good thing for all if we did? 🤔
Also, loved reading what became of your relationships with Mitch, Sam, and Erin! ♥️
And, thank you for sharing the gem from Poppy. Made me laugh out loud! Xx
I like to think I am an honest adult too, but I know I have for sure lost that magic of childlike honesty you are writing about. Sometimes things are better left unsaid to save feelings (both mine or others haha). We also develop a bigger people pleasing bone I find, as we grow, and become more filtered, so as a result our honesty of what we want isn't always shared. I wonder what it would be like if we all started doing that. Such a good question that I have been sitting here thinking about for a while now and imagine will pop into my head every time I bite my tongue. Thanks for sharing this with me 🧡
Also, I love how much you love the Poppy content. It means so much 🧡🧡🧡
You’re so right about that darn people pleasing bone! I think it grows and grows until we hit a certain age (which probably coincides with a breaking point) and then it shrinks back down, so that by the time we’re 60 or 70, we remember how to prioritize our needs/wants again. Not in a selfish way, hopefully. I’m starting to feel mine shrinking. It might be the best part about aging. 😜
Also, I can never get enough Poppy! Thank you for sharing your sweet fam with us! ♥️
I love your honesty and how you keep things real for us and yourself (respectively? Lol). Your teenage dance story took me back to my 13 Y/O self and 7th & 8th grade dances at the town hall, with zeppelin’s Stairway to Heaven on the turntable 🤦♀️. There were 9 of us in those 2 grades...
My “Where Are They Now” footnotes:
One of the boys I danced with later went on to murder a woman and do 20+ years in prison.
OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY in that small group those are poor odds of the "Where Are They Now"? and that is awfully sad stuff! I am so glad all you got from him was a dance.
Also, thank you! It is so healing to write so honestly, and I am so grateful for readers who accept that and embrace it. It keeps me being honest 🧡🧡🧡
This one hit home...but fortunately for me, someone being into me has very rarely been a problem 🤷♂️
I can also count on one hand the number of times I've td someone I'm friends with that I'm crushing on them.
Three time. I've done that 3 times.
1 ended the friendship (this is where I learned to shut up and judt be friends).
1 got kinda freaked and needed to talk out how not into me they were and how that freaked them out (fortunately we are still friends, but ouch, rejection)
One took me 6yrs of friendship to say, but she did marry me last year so that one worked out really well! 😆
I'm demiace too, so finding someone who is also on the ace spectrum was a very helpful thing!
Hi Lee 🧡
I don't think I have ever told anyone, I often realize I have feelings (AKA I grow those feelings as I am guessing you can relate) when it is far too late and that is my fault. Wait. Not fault. That is who I am and I love her for it.
The small amount of times (one time) I have found people willing to wait, and I have reciprocated, it has been a beautiful relationship. Aside from that, I have FOR SURE tested the waters once those feels come along by making comments or asking questions and when the answer is them completely oblivious, friends is where it stays.
I am feeling so lucky you have found your way to this substack and that you can relate to some of it, too.
Thanks so much for reading and for sharing! I am so thrilled to hear you two got married last year. Congrats! GOALS!
So much to love here. ❤️
I too, was cornered and peer pressured about romantic relationships in elementary school, what a weird practice. Thank you for sharing and normalizing that this is a thing that can happen to folks.
Truly weird! I can't help but imagine if certain conversations were normalized, then those who felt like exploring those urges could do so safely and not have to pressure others who weren't feeling like that is what they wanted to do.
Love everything about this! I was an honest kid, too. I like to think I’m an honest adult, but the honesty of youth is next level. Can we get back to that? And would it be a good thing for all if we did? 🤔
Also, loved reading what became of your relationships with Mitch, Sam, and Erin! ♥️
And, thank you for sharing the gem from Poppy. Made me laugh out loud! Xx
I like to think I am an honest adult too, but I know I have for sure lost that magic of childlike honesty you are writing about. Sometimes things are better left unsaid to save feelings (both mine or others haha). We also develop a bigger people pleasing bone I find, as we grow, and become more filtered, so as a result our honesty of what we want isn't always shared. I wonder what it would be like if we all started doing that. Such a good question that I have been sitting here thinking about for a while now and imagine will pop into my head every time I bite my tongue. Thanks for sharing this with me 🧡
Also, I love how much you love the Poppy content. It means so much 🧡🧡🧡
You’re so right about that darn people pleasing bone! I think it grows and grows until we hit a certain age (which probably coincides with a breaking point) and then it shrinks back down, so that by the time we’re 60 or 70, we remember how to prioritize our needs/wants again. Not in a selfish way, hopefully. I’m starting to feel mine shrinking. It might be the best part about aging. 😜
Also, I can never get enough Poppy! Thank you for sharing your sweet fam with us! ♥️
Bring on that breaking point! Haha xoxo