Kacy is a writer, director, producer, and host of The Stories We Tell Podcast. In part two of this two-part episode, we talk about Kacy’s realisations during lockdowns that very quickly made huge and amazing changes in his life. The moment he was locked into his house it was very apparent very quickly that his world had changed forever. This was the first time in his life he had ever lived alone and suddenly he realised he had spent so much of his life trying to “be the person people would love”.
He started using the term “Cat Dad” to refer to himself, began to see that the solitude meant he could exist in a “natural state” in terms of clothing, and then started fantasising about a different body. This all happened within a week of isolation.
His writing was also an outlet, and a way to express himself as he truly saw himself. Through a meditative writing workshop, he was able to connect with one of his characters in the screenplay he was writing and immediately saw himself as the leading man.
We hear how Kacy is continuing to fall in love with himself, and that the primary relationship he has in his life is with himself and his friends. Speaking of these special friendships, we hear from Eric, Kacy’s “North Star”, who shares more gorgeous memories and shows us a beautiful love that is the epitome of pure.
In this episode:
-Kacy shares his transcendence, not transition!
-Physical touch is Kacy’s love language but sometimes he wishes it wasn’t!
-The answer to the question “Do I want to be them or be with them?” is “Yes”.
-All the things we want in life we get from our friendships! How special!
-Okay, let’s start talking about sexuality without a lack mindset!
-We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!
-Spread the word! We all want a love that is like being picked up like Jonesy Cat!
Resources:
-Follow Kacy on IG! @sir_kacy
-Listen to The Stories We Tell Podcast! thestorieswetellpodcast.com
-Check out Kacy’s award-winning production company, My Best Guy! @sir_bestguy
-Jessica Hinds’ Meditative writing: meditativewriting.org
-The James Baldwin playlist I mentioned
-The clip of Modern Family that calmed me during my attempts to learn French
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🌈 No article this week! Instead something incredible:
Kacy wrote a short film called Last First Kiss: A hopeless romantic, the girl of her dreams, and a finicky jukebox at a local queer bar.
Kacy has funded the production of Last First Kiss, but we can get on board to help him with funds for post-production, music licensing, and sound. Please take a look at Kacy’s Kickstarter, and contribute if you can to witness the stories you want more of!
🌈 Queer joy of the week. HAVE YOU WATCHED THIS VIDEO? SEEN THESE PHOTOS? LOVED EVERY BIT OF IT? same.
(I want Queer joy from the community! Email me your photographic, artistic, meme, or other joy to mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com so I can share it with the community!)
🌈 5-star review showcase.
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music: Shawn Kangro
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lauren deborah
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Kacy Boccumini (he/him) - part two